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Pushing past your comfort zone

I always suspected that some people were less challenged by dares than I was. Most times, if I got a dare, I would be too tempted to turn it down. No, tempted isn’t the right word. It’s more like I had to prove to myself that I was able to do it. Some of it wasn’t anything too special. Stuff like climbing trees or asking someone for directions. Hey! When I was a kid, strangers were scary ok!

But because of those few first experiences, you can develop a mindset where you know you can push past your comfort zone and deal with something and it won’t be so bad.

After all, how bad can it be to ask a stranger for directions? And if you can do that, you can also speak in front of some people. If you can do that, then drama and acting in front of an audience is a breeze.

But it takes that one incident where you thought to yourself, “oh my god, can I do it?” And you went ahead and did it anyway.

When you’ve had that moment in your life, even once, it changes your entire life. It changes everything that’s possible for you. It changes you from a sniveling coward to a person who can actually push past your limits and embrace new experiences.

Sure, it’s a scary thing. Honestly? It’s very scary. It takes guts to put yourself (your pride, honor and reputation) on the line and just hope for the best. Logic has little to do with it. Reality has even less hold on the matter. It doesn’t particularly matter that you’re performing in front of a bunch of strangers who will probably never see you again (or even bother to remember your face), it’s the act of baring your self and soul in a moment where your past experiences can do nothing to help you.

It’s that act of faith in only your own self that you are strong enough to overcome this new thing. And it has to be faith. Since you’ve never done such a thing before (out of your comfort zone), you can’t rely on your own experiences to tell you that you’ll make it out alright.

That act of faith in yourself is what will grow your personal seed of courage. Courage that says, “I can do it, no matter what new things life throws at me. I can do it, and I will prevail!”

It’s so worth it! Those of you who’ve had the opportunity to push past your comfort zone (in whatever way), a whole world of experiences lies before you.

There are many who limit themselves by saying, “It’s just not my style”.

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